Parenting guide 04 · Free for parents
The Anxious Teen Toolkit
Five things to do — and five to never say — when your teenager is spiralling.
When your teen is anxious, your body knows it before your mind does. The urge is to fix, to reassure, to talk them out of it. Almost all of that makes it worse.
What's inside
- What teenage anxiety actually is — and why logic, in that moment, is offline
- Five things to do (in order) when your teen is spiralling
- Five phrases to never say — and the one sentence to replace them all
- When a toolkit isn't enough: the signals that mean it's time for professional support
After 30 years in the classroom and now as a school manager, I know a few secrets about dealing with teenagers — let me share these secrets with you today.
Who this is from
From the classroom to your kitchen table.
I'm Lourens. After 30 years in the classroom and now as a school manager, I know a few secrets about dealing with teenagers — let me share these secrets with you today.
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